The 4 Love Styles, According to Astrology
The element of your Venus sign can influence how you give and receive love
If you want to learn more about your personal journey in love or more about your partner’s “style” in love, you’re in the right place.
Venus in Relationship Astrology
In astrology, one of the expressions of Venus is the give and take of love, affection, sensual pleasure, and caring for others. The element of Venus in your birth chart offers an explanation of “how” you express those energies—the experiences and expressions that feed and satisfy the need to feel close to someone.
For women, Venus is related to the female ego. Traditional astrological thought suggests that a woman needs to experience the characteristics of her Venus sign in order to feel feminine. In many cases, Venus represents how a woman approaches relationships that may lead to sex.
Venus is associated with romance, beauty, and attraction for men. While Mars represents his sexual energy and the Moon represents what he’s attracted to on a companionship level—security, support, and nurturing—Venus directly relates to a man’s ideals on love, sex, and relationships.
Knowing your love style (and your partner’s) can help you determine the best approach in relationships.
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Venus in Fire: Passionate Lover
If your Venus is in a fire sign (Aries, Leo, or Sagittarius), your love style is characterized by spontaneity, grand gestures, and lots of laughter. You can be idealistic in love, and your spirit continually breathes new life into your relationships. You feed off your lover’s energy, so the best matches for you appreciate drama and excitement.
You feel love and closeness with other people through vigorous activity and pursuing mutual aspirations and excitement. You show your affection in grand, direct ways.
It can be disappointing if your partner can’t keep up or follow your script. But take care to not disregard your partner's dreams or desires—they are just as real as yours!
Some of your partners might say you can be too blunt and direct in your approach, but you know that the quickest way to get from A to B is a straight line.
Venus in Earth: Practical Lover
If your Venus is in an earth sign (Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn), you need physical proof to feel the most loved. You appreciate solid, long-standing, and reliable relationships. Of all the lovers in the zodiac, you’re likely the most cautious in love. It takes some time for you to truly feel comfortable. But once you do commit, you take it seriously.
You feel love and closeness when you and your partner are committing to building a life together—whether through shared responsibilities or shared sensual pleasures. You express affection and appreciation in physical, dependable, and tangible ways.
You’re not afraid to work at your relationship, and that’s what makes you an incredible partner. More extreme types can have an impersonal, conservative, and overly-practical approach, where deep, true feelings may not come across clearly. Often, when your partners ask you for some kind of proof of love, it can be exasperating. You’re present and accounted for, aren’t you?
Superficial relationships don’t work for you. In fact, many people with Venus in an earth sign would consider them a waste of valuable time and energy. You rely on tangible, easily-measured expressions of love, rarely using flowery language or grand gestures that an airy or fiery Venus lovers may use.
Venus in Air: Intellectual Lover
If your Venus is in an air sign (Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius), communication is a necessary part of your relationships. Lively, intelligent, and fun exchanges can be a turn-on for many Venus-in-air types.
You feel love and closeness when there’s a meeting of the minds between you and your partner through sharing verbally and mutual socialization. You show appreciation and affection through intellection communication and companionship.
Many people with Venus in an air sign need verbal expressions of interest to feel secure in a relationship. Sharing of thoughts is a must—the right words and the right time can make a world of difference. A lack of communication could put the relationship in jeopardy.
Still, you likely need the most space out of all the lovers in the zodiac. The best matches for you respect your need for freedom and independence and will give you space for all your social commitments outside of the relationship. Dating an earthy lover could get tricky—you may need less physical presence and affection than they do.
Venus in Water: Emotional Lover
If your Venus is in a water sign (Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces), your love style is exchanging emotions and sympathy. You may prefer consistent responsiveness, sensitivity, and vulnerability in your romantic relationships. You tend to merge with your partner on an emotional level and share feelings more than words.
Of all the lovers in the zodiac, you are the most receptive to emotional displays and expressions of affection. While you can be self-protective and cautious in love—which makes a great match with slow, earthy lovers. Your partners benefit from how you nurture and care for them in a committed relationship. You do require loyalty, though, and many people with Venus in water signs do not like to share.
If you date someone with Venus in an air sign, you can find yourself baffled if they ask you to verbalize how you feel. Don’t they already feel it? Your sensitivity may also overwhelm a partner with Venus in a fire sign. They may not understand why you need time and space (and sometimes silence) to work through your emotions.
